The #1 thing you can do to help someone in a violent relationship is to tell someone.
Domestic violence feeds on silence. Therefore, if you see it, say something about it. Domestic violence affects families at all socioeconomic levels, all education levels, all religions and all ethnicities.
Its impact on individual families is enormous and devastating, but the impact on the community as a whole is equally devastating. It is a serious, widespread health and safety issue and must be treated as such. It is important to recognize that this epidemic affects all people in our society, not only the victim and the perpetrator; therefore when witness an instance of abuse yet you sit idly by, you become part of the problem.
If you witness an instance of abuse/have a friend who is in an abusive relationship:
Call 911 if they are in immediate danger. Do not intervene, for your own safety.
If you have the opportunity, talk to the victim, but more importantly, listen to them. Tell them it is not his/her fault and that nobody deserves to be abused (no matter what their partner tells them).
Don’t try to force the victim to break up with their batterer, this could put them in grave danger if they leave without a safety plan. If the victim has a desire to leave, but doesn’t know where to start, please click here. If the victim does not want to leave, offer your support and please, refer them to our individual therapy services. We can help the victim assess their situation and find out what’s best for their own safety.
IF YOU ARE IN DANGER, PLEASE CALL 911
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